Here is the second of the ‘From Elsewhere’ posts that concern issues of sexuality and gender. In this piece Matthew from the blog ‘Matthew Speaks’ outlines his views on the matter of being ‘out’ and other subjects.
This article also states Matthews view on the shallow, body obsessed, sex obsessed, drug fuelled gay ‘scene’ and why he wants no part of it . Matthew’s is another dissenting voice from the LGB world, a voice that is all too often drowned out by club going hedonists and the LGBT Left. I hope Matthew doesn’t mind me reproducing the complete article as it is one of those pieces where it is difficult to decide just what to excerpt and what to leave out. I would certainly encourage people to read this interesting writer who has things to say on free speech, gay life, autism, the European issue and much more.
You can find his blog at: http://matthewspeaks.net/
Here’s the ‘gay scene’ article by Matthew Speaks
When gay people talk about the scene what is it and what do I mean by myself being non-scene?
The gay scene is the world full of night clubs and gay pubs and the like. You basically live in the gay ‘community’ with the obsessive compulsion to hit one of the gay clubs at least once at the weekend.
I’ve done this once and the atmosphere is dire, so are the people. It’s dire. I favour the ‘normal’ pubs. When you scrape beneath the surface of the ‘Gay scene’ you will find that it’s not a nice place at all. In all honesty it’s a place I don’t want to be in and it’s what a lot of gay people actually fight against, but it’s where the stereotypical views of homosexuals comes from.
The gay scene is full of bitchiness and two face people, only ever interested in two things – where is their next encounter is going to come from and where are they going to get their next hit of drugs from.
Not the full on heavy drugs people like to think of – as in Heroin and such like. But more of poppers and speed, stuff you take when clubbing. The gay scene seems to be built around just that – clubs. It is true everyine likes to maybe dance and listen to music. But when you go to gay clubs and find that they stay open until 5am in the morning you need something to last that long.
Why anyone would want to stay out past 1am I will never understand. But then I don’t have a need to fill.
Then next thing is where are they going to get their next sleeping partner from, they almost pride themselves on the amount of people they have been with. Which is why I can see the initial thoughts of the AIDs disease as being the gay disease. But that no longer qualifies, however I still believe otherwise.
The gay world can also be so superficial in finding a partner it’s almost as if you have to fit yourself against a criteria, an almost colour-chart chart like and it’s quite a personal criteria. Height, eye colour, build, do you take drugs, do you smoke, are you looking for a lover or just a one night stand.
Depending on how you answer the above questions depends on whether the other person is interested. It is such a cold way of doing this, almost as if you’re shopping in the supermarket – do I want it low in fat, high in energy, should it contains nuts or be vegetarian? You get the general idea.
And it’s because of this shallow, drug ridden life scene that I’m not on it. I am out, the people I want to know, know I’m gay and I make no real show to flaunt it. I don’t go on the scene because of the world and the people and their lives that revolve around it.
I don’t condone Homophobia, but Some of it is bought on by our own doing, for example:
All this need to shout that your gay by taking part in unnecessary marches, making ourselves open to targets, flaunting yourself etc etc,
There is just no need to be camp or take it too far, because your just asking for it really?
I have never been a victim of homophobia (touch wood) and I believe that is because I have followed my own simple rules, don’t flaunt it, avoid the unnecessary camp – queeny act, keep yourself to yourself tell those who you only wish to know, and don’t make a big deal out of it by the way you dress. After all you don’t leave your house unlocked and your valuables on show in your car do you…? Your just asking for it if you do…
Everyone has to take responsibility for their own actions and behaviour, we gays do have our own responsibility too, we cant blame all this onto others.
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